2009 Holidays
Nina SaySo, as a new Mom I am lost with the upcoming holidays. My daughter will be 10 months old just before Halloween. I want to make sure she has fun, being able to dress up and have a night with her uncles and cousins. But, as soon as I work up my excitement for her my husband tells me how bad of an idea it is. Am I crazy for wanting my baby to be able to participate in the upcoming holidays?
I think she is old enough to enjoy herself, just by knowing her and her personality. She is lively and happy, and enjoys everything we give her. But my husband is super protective and doesn't think I should take her out at all. We live in California, and it is barely getting cool here, it wont be that cold on Halloween night.
And with Christmas, and her birthday. I want to get a theme for her birthday, with matching plates/napkins/balloons and such. But my husband says to me "She wont remember it, what did you get on your first birthday?" And he is right, I do not remember, but I know for a fact she will enjoy it. And, 5 days after her birthday is Christmas. I want her to have a nice Christmas, I do not believe it is ever too early to start a child with the excitement of Christmas. All throughout my childhood, I always felt like Christmas was magical. And I want her to feel the same way.
Here is my question to all of you Mommies. What do you think is right? Is it too early for me to start celebrating these holidays with my baby? And letting her have as much fun as the older kids?
Reader Comments (7)
Hi Nina - This is your first baby, for heaven's sake. Of course you are going to want to do all of these fun things with her. I was the same way, and I did it for both of my kids, but I was especially excited with my first one. If you look at typical 1st birthday pictures, and I've seen a lot, they all have a picture of the cake all over the birthday girl/boy's face. Everybody does this, so have fun! Enjoy your baby, because before you know it, they will be a teenager and want to be with their friends on their birthday's. You and your husband need to appreciate what you have and treasure every single moment. Have fun now! Live in the moment, because no one knows what the future holds. You might want to remind your husband of this. You could also tell him about my situation. Currently, I am a single mom with 2 beautiful kids who I can't do anything special with or for, because I am unemployed and so is my ex (no child support either). Be happy you can do these things with your baby.
Uncles and cousins? What about Grandma and Grandpa? That hurts. As far a my Zoe Zoe not remembering...tha's why God made pictures. We all know birthday 1 and 2 are for the family, not the child. No one, and I mean no one, loves her like Mom and me. Except for you and Bryan. So, I expect a wee trick or treater on Halloween. Also a fun birthday for her as well.
It's sweet that your husband is so protective. But I definitely think you should enjoy the holidays with your child. A lot of people don't remember much from their early childhood at all - does that mean we shouldn't celebrate a 5 year old's birthday? We don't remember our infancy, but does that mean anything that happens then is meaningless? Of course not, it's a critical stage of development. You child will enjoy it, and although they may not directly recollect it, they will smile when they see the photos as an adult - and it will make YOU happy! If you were talking about hosting $10,000 party or something, I would agree that it's unnecessary. (But that would be unnecessary at any age, lol) But I think you should absolutely celebrate the holidays - and make an effort to really include your husband, even if he dismisses it. He may enjoy it so much himself that he will understand - not everyone has a very fun childhood, so maybe that's why he doesn't "Get" it?
Hey dont feel bad we took wyatt out when he was like 2 months old we didnt take candy for him but let him experience it!
All of my girls have dressed for every Halloween since they were born. I always take them out, heck...just take her to a few of your friends and families houses. As for the birthday, honestly I don't go crazy with all of the decorations and matching stuff. But, I'm kind of a tightwad like that. I guess if you can afford it then no biggie, but it really isn't necessary. Just have fun!
My daughter was 3 months for her first Halloween and she was 5 months her first Christmas . I took her out her first Halloween and we went all out for her first birthday! I know that they don't remember them , but the pictures are memories !
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